Fine Wine, Fine Line

What's your age ceiling when it comes to sex.

There was no question mark in Stanley my sex bunny friend's voice.

Just a full stop. A tone that says, "discuss".

Carl the dense one tilted his head and thought very deeply.

"Warm water please," he finally told our server at Winestone, a restaurant which, judging by its slogans pasted throughout its interior, empowers alcoholics. 

"My throat is a little scratchy," Carl explains, "so I thought warm water would be better for me. Where were we?"

Stanley rolled his eyes and repeated his topic of the day.

"What is your age ceiling when it comes to sex."

It was one of those Sundays when it's just the three of us. Something we'd been doing since we were in our early thirties. And when we meet to catch up, there's always topics of sex. 

Now that we're turning 46 (a very young 46), we're still at it.

Time flies.

And it's about to fly even faster with Stanley insisting we delved deep into old men and sex.

"I don't know, 35?" said Carl the dense one as he tore his bread and rolled it into a round lump as if he were moulding clay. 

"Let me rephrase my question," Stanley said. "What's your age ceiling when it comes to sex -- an age that's higher than our current age."

Carl tilted his head and thought about it. Then he tore off a bigger piece of his bread, rolled it into another round lump, carefully dabbed a tiny bit of butter on it, before placing the smaller lump on top of it. "A snowman!" Carl said with glee like a happy child.

Stanley and I exchanged looks that said many things, all of which aren't positive. 

"Carl, my dear," Stanley said to him in a tone that one would take when speaking to a stupid child. "That's a very nice snowman."

Stanley turned to me, hoping to hit some adult wavelength.

"Hmmm, 55?" I ventured. 

"Really. Why that magic number?" Stanley leaned in as if he were an investigative journalist trying to expose my political wrongdoing on national TV.

"I mean, you asked, so I thought about it, and I came up with it," I said, standing my ground.

Stanley nodded, digesting that number.

"And you. Carl," he said accusingly, "you're saying the oldest you'll ever sleep with is 35, never mind you're turning 46."

Carl was about to eat his snowman, but he paused to reconfirm his answer to Stanley Ong, intrepid investigative journalist. 

"Yes, your honour," Carl said, and chomped his bread snowman to death.

"And you're asking because?" I finally said, allowing Stanley to move on to the next stage of this discussion which I hope to kickstart before our order of medium-rare meats, honey-baked camerbert, warm beef salad, gambas and fries arrived. 

Turns out, Stanley's investigative line of questioning was indeed related to some sort of probing. 

Probing which he had done recently.

He gestured to Carl and me to lean forward as if he were about to reveal life's mystery to us.

"I had sex recently with an older man," he said.

Carl the dense one decided there was no news point in Stanley's remark, considering that our sex bunny friend has sex with random strangers of all ages and sizes since he was 14. He turned his attention back to his bread, no doubt, thinking about what he could make out of that dough next.

"Let me rephrase," Stanley said when he saw our nonchalant looks.  

"I had sex recently with an old man."

"How old," I ask with some fear.

"Old," Stanley said sheepishly.

Just then, our Korean manager returned to our table and showed us a bottle of wine.

Stanley glanced at the label, nodded zestfully and said "we won't need to taste the wine. Just serve it."

As the Korean manager who has porcelain skin served us our Shiraz, Stanley had to say. "Wine. The older, the better."

Korean manager with the porcelain skin smiled and agreed.

"How old," I said urgently as soon as the manager left for the next table to take orders.

It was my turn to be the investigative journalist.

Stanley smiled and raised both eyebrows.

"60?" Carl asked.

Stanley smiled and raised both eyebrows.

"65?" I asked.

Stanley smiled and raised both eyebrows.

"What is this? The price is right?" I asked. 

Stanley gave me a dagger stare for breaking momentum.

"70?" Carl said and held his breath as if he had placed all bets on the high-stakes casino gamble.

Stanley smiled and raised both his eyebrows.

I felt my blood pressure rising with all this excitement.

"75?" I asked, wondering why we were reciting the 5-times-table.

Stanley kept his expression as stoic as possible. Then he revealed a smile and raised both his eyebrows.

"80?" Carl asked, his eyes as wide as our sharing plates.

Stanley stretched his smile even wider as if he were Joker.

"My god. Stan. 85?"

Stanley pointed at me and said "SOLD".

Carl let out a yelp that sounded like a puppy which was accidentally stepped on.

"Well, not quite 85. Close," Stanley said.

"Close to what? His grave?"

"Hey, Adam. That was mean," Stanley scolded. Carl frowned and looked at me.

Okay sorry. That was mean. But 85?!

"He's 84," Stanley corrected. "A young 84."

Carl and I exchanged looks silently. Then we fired Stanley with questions, the way any media conference revolving around a scandal would unfold.

And so, Stanley unfolded for us.

"His skin is not soft to touch, that much I can confirm. It felt like I was touching leather. Smooth leather. But wrinkly leather. But he smelled very nice. He smelled like a gentleman."

I wondered how a gentleman would smell like, but now's not the time to ask such irrelevant questions.

Carl, whose oldest person he would have sex with is 35, shivered. 

"And yes, I know what you guys are thinking," Stanley said.

"I no longer know what to think," I replied.

"He can still perform you know. He can still get hard."

Carl gasped. 

Yes, Stanley nodded with satisfaction. There is hope for us in future when we're 84.

According to Stanley, mister 84 does not disappoint. 

Sure, our senior citizen friend cannot sustain an erection, Stanley said. But the first half of his performance was commendable. He was hard at the right time, and soft and lumpy all the time. His muscles, his sagging skin all felt aged. 

Carl closed his eyes in fear but like how we cannot peel our eyes away from an accident happening in front of our eyes, asked "And... who topped whom?" 

"I did."

Carl yelped again, this time silently. All these details are killing Carl.

Stanley was also afraid of killing.

"While doing the deed, I was so scared he might die of a heart attack from all the excitement," he said. 

"Which made it all the more fun," he added guiltily.

I was really dumbfounded.

"Why," I asked Stanley. "Just, why?"

It was a random encounter, Stanley explained. He was in the CBD area when his Grindr alert sounded. 

This 84 year old isn't exactly senile. He's wealthy, smart, extremely great a conversationalist. 

I wanted to say he has had 8 decades to practise but thought I shouldn't be so mean.

Stanley was at first drawn to him because firstly, he did have his real profile photo on the app. Maybe it was a younger photo of himself but the old guy didn't hide his age. 

They were chatting and flirting and Stanley was really curious how things would pan out. 

"What the heck" was Stanley's thought when the elderly man invited him to his place (a very luxury unit located just above Lau Pa Sat) for a drink.

One thing led to another and Stanley soon found himself strangely attracted to the man. 

"I felt so many things. Curiosity, awe, fear, adventurous, guilt, wonderment, bravery," said Stanley whose list of adjectives would make any primary school English tutor proud. 

And how do you feel about all this now, I ask.

Stanley thought about it deeply. 

"I didn't regret it. I thought I would. But the mix of fear and guilt and excitement... I think it was a good experience," he said.

"Would I do it again? I don't think so. Because I didn't set out to have sex with an 84 year old. But the circumstances leading to it... I think if they conditions were right again, I might repeat it."

Carl could take it no more. 

"My grandfather is 84," he said.

"Now I'm going to have nightmares," Carl added.

"Well, if it's Stanley, he would have wet dreams," I had to respond. 

 

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Adam's stories are based on real life events and inspired by real people

Gay Marriages

Home cooked dinner. Cosy setting. Just bring dessert, was the brief. 

That afternoon, my partner J and I were invited to our friends Ryan and Bing Wen's place in the east. 

Ryan is a partner and later, friend to J at their law firm. The two had been good friends for the last 5 years since Ryan came on board.

For dessert, J decided to get Bangladeshi dessert just because nobody in our circle goes for dinner parties  and brings Bangladeshi desserts. 

I brought along a nice bottle of Amarone knowing that Ryan and Bing Wen would enjoy it.

Their place was nestled amid calming greenery and surrounded by condo developments no higher than 10 storeys. Entering the Lorong K area of Singapore felt like I had invaded Tiny Town. 

"Welcome!" Bing Wen said, reaching out to give J and me a hug each. 

"Ry's still cooking but come on in -- let's get started on a white," said Bing who is always looking for an excuse to drink.

Ryan, all of 1.82m tall, was hovering over a huge pot of rendang. "I'll go with air kisses please -- I'm too sweaty to have formal body contact," he said in a crisp English accent. 

Years of returning to Singapore from his law studies in UK hadn't watered down his accent. 

Ryan's home is a cosy semi-loft. Big enough for two people on a daily basis and comfortable enough to host two other people.

Bing hurriedly brought out his stemware and opened a bottle of Carneros Chardonnay. 

"I heard J say you're cutting down," Bing said. "Drink your fill here and leave the rest of your quota empty."

While J went to make himself useful, offering Ryan help, Bing and I plonked ourselves onto their couch and clinked glasses. 

"Tell me the primary notes," Bing asked like an adventurous explorer eager to share his treasures, and I swirled my glass, sniffed my wine and took a first sip.

Bing, who is by day an energy trader and by night (and sometimes day) a wine connoisseur, loves his fermented grapes.  

"Wow," I said. "It's very creamy!" and proceeded to take sip number two to express my appreciation. 

"I love it. Very buttery. I don't always get to drink such finishes!"

Bing was pleased with himself and looked at me seriously in the eye. "Then drink to your heart's content!"

I love Bing. He's the exact opposite of Ryan (which, in away, is also a reflection of J and me). 

Ryan is very similar to J. Serious, quiet, extremely diligent and very low profile. 

Bing is the arty-fart element in their couple-hood. He loves his wine, his music, his art, and most importantly, food. 

Both Ryan and Bing are great cooks so invitations to their place -- whether it's a simple home cooked meal or a busy barbeque or even game night with snacks -- you can be assured of quality food. 

They don't believe in ordering in. They believe in making things from scratch. It's their love language. 

And Ryan and Bing's love started four years ago. Shortly after Ryan started working with J. 

They connected via Tinder. One date led to two, then three, and then bam! They both bought a place to live happily ever after.

Well, not yet.

The happily ever after is on its way.

As we all gathered at Ryan and Bing's dinning table, I looked around and saw happy faces of bliss, relief, gratitude and love.

Glasses were raised and auspicious toasts were made and lunch began.

As Ryan served me a scoop of piping hot beef rendang over my pilaf rice, Bing placed a generous helping of Thai vermicelli salad on J's plate.

One of the best ways to spend Saturday afternoons was with loved ones who make time to pamper their friends.

It was a joy watching Ryan and Bing finish each other's sentence and sharing with us their hopes and dreams. 

And then, Bing broke the news.

"We're planning to formalise our relationship. We haven't decided if it would be a same-sex marriage, or just a symbolic union, but we want to hold a ceremony to mark that," Bing said.

J set his fork and spoon on his plate and listened intently.

I reached for my glass, standing by for another congratulatory toast.

I may have said Ryan and J are similar in character but the one thing that Ryan's different is that he's very overtly romantic too.

He held Bing's hand and said "we're always looking for reasons to host friends and one night, I asked if Bing would want to hold something grand. Like a wedding reception or something and he said yes."

"That's the worst proposal ever, but I said yes," echoed Bing. 

"We haven't worked out the details yet -- but you both will be there," Bing said sternly.

J smiled, nodded and said "of course".

The format of their union was still in the air -- as was love. 

Bing whipped out his phone and showed J and me a beautiful -- and unposed -- photo of him and Ryan.

We were both on a hiking trip in Indonesia, and our guide captured this moment.

It was a perfect shot. Ryan was standing up slope, his body arching over to Bing to help him climb a high rock. Both of them were looking at each other and the photo was made all the more surreal with the morning sun cast on them, creating a mysterious back-lit silhouette on them both.

"This is going to be our centrepiece at our reception."

It was beautiful. 

Later, I shared that moment with the boys in our group chat.

Stanley the sex bunny and Carl the dense one have only heard of but never met this couple.

"Oh, so romantic," Stanley said.

Carl was in his element.

"What's happening? Who are they? Are they BL actors?"

If Carl were in the army, he would be the proverbial blur recruit. 

If Stanley were in the army, he would no doubt be a drill sergeant, given his penchant for drilling. 

"I also want to get married," Stanley typed in our group chat Just The Boys. 

"I have always wanted a big rock on my finger. And also sometimes, in a specific part of my body."

 

 

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Adam's stories are based on real life events and inspired by real people

GE Watch Party (Part 2)

"Driiiiink!" shrieked Lina whose voice and face do not match.

Lina -- my sex bunny friend Stanley's yoga buddy -- is clearly high. Both in terms of intoxication level and her decibel. 

For someone who can be described as a China doll (her skin is porcelain smooth and those sharp features of hers look like they were artistically sculptured by a skillful craftsman), I cannot reconcile with what's coming out of her mouth this very moment.

"Adam! Driiiink!" she commanded again. Her shrill voice sounded like it belonged to a night safari rather than any urban setting -- and it really sounded like it came from something feral which has very sharp teeth. 

I promptly picked up my glass for fear of being shouted at again.

That night, the group of us were having a GE watch party at Stanley's. 

The deal was, every time we hear the words "mandate", we would have to drink.

Between replays of Singapore PM Lawrence Wong and the political analysts on the live programme who kept saying the word mandate, it's safe to say we had one drink too many. 

It was barely one hour into the 8pm live polling show and nearly everyone in Stanley's Queens Close home was high.

We gathered at Stanley's for an early dinner but our drinking started as soon as we streamed into his place by around 4pm.

By dinner time, we had polished off six bottles of whites. There were just six of us. Stanley the sex bunny, Carl the dense one, Lina the China doll with a non-human voice, Michael the unkempt gay, my partner J and I. 

Mathematically, we each drank a bottle of wine before 8pm.

But who's counting.

Right now, the group is very focused on another type of counting. The votes.

We were placing bets to see if Singapore's main opposition force -- the Workers' Party -- would win more seats this time round.

And one of the most keenly-watched seats were those in Punggol. 

"Punggol," Stanley began, "is such a basic place." 

"It's a straight-people start-up town," said Stanley, chief urban analyst. 

Michael, Stanley's yoga buddy whose farts helped forge friendships, nodded.  

Stanley's point is, Punggol -- Singapore's youngest town -- is really made for straight people.

Government housing there is made widely available for all who want to buy their first flats. Even the condos there are cheaply priced.

As a result, over time, Punggol became the first choice for most married couples to start their homes. 

"And five years later, these basic straight people will sell off their flats which they all bought with government subsidies and make a profit from it," Stanley said.

Carl the dense one, who has heard this story before, chose this moment to pee. 

"And these basic Punggol straight people get on my nerves," Stanley said. "There's something un-classy about them."

Carl, who had finished peeing, walked back to the living room and when he realised Stanley was still on his Punggol story, decided he hadn't peed enough and returned to hide in the toilet for a while more.

"Typically, when you go to Punggol, you'll see the typical straight couple families. All these basic Punggol wives would be skinny, have long, rebonded hair, wears a spaghetti strap blouse and calls herself Linda when her real name is Tan Siew Moi or something."

"The husband will almost always be wearing some washed out army tee or singlet with hair that's never combed. They're usually good looking but overweight," said Stanley, Punggol Population Specialist. 

"If they have no kids, they'll most likely have a trendy dog like Shiba Inu. And if they have a child, their son would have a pretentious name like Kayden, Jayden or Ayden."

"And their home will always be in some form of Japandi style or something," Stanley continued. 

"That's extremely detailed," I pointed out.

"But what really gets me so angry is that these basic Punggol straight people get all the government help. They get subsidies to buy their cheap Punggol flats then when they sell it after their Minimum Occupation Period five years later, they make a profit!"

"We gay people don't get such benefits! We depend on ourselves!"

"The government doesn't take care of gays! VOTE THE WORKERS' PARTY!" Stanley yelled, giving Lina, who had fallen asleep, a jolt. 

"Workers' Party, Workers' Party!" chanted Lina on cue.

"Driiiiiink!" she continued, and then fell back asleep.

 "These analysts are talking and talking non stop," Michael complained, and reached for more cheese.

"Exactly!" shrieked Lina again.

Is this woman asleep or not, I wanted to know.

"Stop all the talking. I need action. Where is the action! I want ACTION!" said Stanley, who stood up and thrusted his hips at his 65-inch TV.

Carl drank to drown his sorrows because he was getting bored.

He could not understand what was going on right now. Politics is too complex for his brain that's wired to function at life's most basic levels. 

And right now, all this analysis, talk about geopolitics and racial policies is giving Carl's brain overtime. Any more of this and he will hit 40-degree fever and break down further.

Just then, the TV cut to a tall newscaster in a nice suit.

"Shut up!!!!" said Stanley who seems offended by anything that's in his periphery. 

"This newscaster is making me fall asleep!" he said, and took a handful of nuts and threw at his 65-inch TV.

J stood up and proceeded to boil some water in the hope of sobering some of our very drunk friends.

"Yada, yada, yada," Michael said as the boring newscaster -- who looks and sounds sleepy -- carried on reading. 

Carl, who's bored to no end, stood up and did something constructive. Power squats. He needs to burn off his calorie intake so far.

"Actually, Singapore elections are all so boring," Michael said. "Look at the US. There's an assassination attempt on Trump. And in Malaysia, I hear people being bribed to vote for a certain party."

"Singapore politics is indeed very boring," Stanley agreed. "Which is why I focus on the good looks of this bunch of new faces."

According to Stanley and his database, this is the GE which has some of the most goodlooking candidates.

There's this former civil servant and yummy father of four who still looks like he's serving national service. 

"I will vote for him so that he can serve me like a humble servant," said Stanley who sounds like a humble serpent. 

And then, there's this geeky and brainy Workers' Party candidate who has a winsome, toothy grin. 

"I love geeks. And I think of all candidates, this one, pants down, is the best."

By 11pm, the news programme switched from the droning of the political analysts to the news readers interrupting them to listen to more sample vote counts, to more droning of the analysts.

"You know what would make GE more interesting," Stanley asked his guests who, by now, are in varying stages of drowsiness. My partner J (who's an early sleeper) was dozing off on my shoulder. Michael had a half-chewed piece of cheese as he stared glassily in front of him. Lina looked like an oriental sleeping beauty (until she shrieks) while Carl was by now, doing jumping jacks to stay awake.

"If only the candidates were made to go through a swim suit round. Only the cute ones. That would make voting more exciting," said Stanley who seems more interested in the member in Member of Parliament.

"I mean, I would want to see that criminal fighter lawyer and his muscles," Stanley said wiping drool off the corner of his lips.

"I certainly want to vote him into the chambers. My chambers." 

By 4am, it was clear that Singaporeans had overwhelmingly voted for the ruling PAP. 

Is it flight to safety? Are voter sentiments no-longer readable such that all analysis leading to this landslide results were slightly off? Or are we in such echo chambers that we don't even realise what's real and what's exemplified.

There was a lot to discuss post-election results but right now, we were in no state to engage further.

"PM Wong and I both want the same thing," Stanley said in his closing speech as he saw all of us off at his door.

"He wants a strong mandate."

"I want a strong man date. Goodnight, Singapore," he said, and closed his bold green door.

 

 

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Adam's stories are based on real life events and inspired by real people

 

GE Watch Party (Part 1)

"Are you ready for change!" was the first greeting I got as Stanley opened the door to his lovely Queens Close apartment.

Carl the dense one had no idea what was happening and stood there dumbfounded. Then again, this was his usual self. 

"Should I leave now?" I ask Stanley cautiously. Our friend didn't look 100 per cent sober.

"Do you want to give them a blank cheque? Do they deserve a free pass?" Stanley barked and continued in a monologue everyone understood. Everyone except Carl who has no idea what all those terms meant.

"Erm, I would like a free pass," he said, crossing his legs, his bladder as weak as his voice. "Please, Stan, let me in."

Stanley the sex bunny couldn't help it, and instinctively replied that's what he said and opened his door -- painted a bold green (his favourite colour) --  to welcome Carl who has urgent needs, my partner J and me to his home.

Indoors, Stanley had his own urgent needs to tend to. He lifted a bottle of Pinot Grigio from the ice bucket and hurriedly refilled a glass. Then he looked at me and said, "help yourself to the wine Adam!"

"How much have you been drinking," my partner J asked, and glanced at the clock which said 3:12pm.

That Saturday, the few of us were invited to Stanley's home for a GE Watch Party. 

It is an event that takes place once every five years when friends would host food and drinks in front of the TV to watch the results of Singapore's General Election.

"It's my day off today, and I did my part as a patriotic citizen by casting my vote, so don't mind me if I celebrated my national duty early," Stanley said.

As J laid the table for our early dinner, the doorbell rang.

It was Lina, one of Stanley's yoga friends. 

"Adam!" she shrieked in a shrill voice that wouldn't have passed the auditions of any Peking Opera singing. 

We would know -- we met Lina late last year when Stanley hosted a year-end party and we had a taste of it.

We love Lina and right now, I'm loving her new look.

"Do you like it?" she asked flipping her hair left and right, letting her curly locks bounce in full glory.  

Lina, a first generation Singaporean who's ancestral home is the motherland of all Chinese, went around exchanging air kisses with us gays. 

The theme for that day's watch party was "go local".

So on Stanley's wooden table laid a messy plate of rojak, a big oval dish that's filled with hokkien mee, a big bundle of satay, black and sweetened char tou kuay, and six limp popiah.

"We're missing a few more dishes," Stanley said doing a mental count.

Minutes later, our missing dishes arrived.

It was Michael whom we've also grown to love. Michael, who, despite being gay, is the least gay person on earth. His fart had helped forge friendship with Stanley and Lina during a yoga class and the three of them had since been in a tight friendship.

"Sorry I'm late!" he said, huffing and puffing, large beads of sweat forming like a pearl tiara across his forehead.

"Did you take the stairs?" Lina asked.

"No, why would I?" Michael replied, puzzled.

Lina -- and Carl, of course -- remain puzzled, but an early dinner was calling out to us so we all tucked into our meal fervently.

"I really hope Workers' Party gains more seats this time round," Michael said. "I'm rooting for the underdogs."

"WP is hardly an underdog," Stanley pointed out. "But I love a good opposition," he said. "It's so sexy when people oppose and resist."

J looked at Stanley. "Should we be worried?"

Stanley said "if I ever get arrested for inappropriate behaviour, you will be my defence lawyer right, J?"

"Let's just hope your activities are contained in the bedroom and never spill out to the courtroom," I said, saving my poor partner from Stanley. 

"This is so exciting," Lina said. 

"Please be specific," I added, worried that she's empowering Stanley unnecessarily. 

"I love Singapore," Lina said. "You guys have no idea how lucky you are with your democratic system."

We had no comeback because what Lina said was true. She of all people would know the value of democracy.

Except Carl the dense one who still didn't know who the exact candidates were in his constituency. 

Heck, he didn't even know which constituency he was in (it's Queenstown SMC, rather than Tanjong Pagar GRC for the record. Carl was in rude shock when he stepped into the voting booth expecting to see a group of candidates as opposed to single candidates). 

If Carl were allowed to procreate, our future generation would be doomed.

At the strike of 8pm local time, everyone gathered excitedly around Stanley's couch. 

Lina took a corner seat of the couch and curled up like she was ready for a colonoscope. Stanley sat upright, as if he were watching a tense football match where he put half his money on one of the teams.

Michael chose to sit on Stanley's carpeted floor and proceeded to surround himself with fluffy Ikea pillows. Then he began digging his ear and smiled with satisfaction.

Carl the dense one looked at Michael, shocked. 

Then he also proceeded to dig his ear and gleamed at Michael, happy to have found a true friend.

"It's starting!" Stanley yelled in case we weren't paying attention to the telly.

"Let's go!!!!!"

"Yesssss!" Lina shrieked in a voice that belongs to a Peking Opera theatre -- a haunted one to be exact.

I looked at J and smiled.

Oh boy, this is going to be a long night.  

 

 

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Adam's stories are based on real life events and inspired by real people

2-Week Break

Dear readers,

This post should have been put up earlier to say that I would be occupied for two weeks and that I wouldn’t have time to blog.

Next week, I’ll be back. 

See you guys again on my weekly updates with the boys!